‘A niche profession’: loneliness and IP
I'm not a hugely gregarious person. I don't mind my own company. But even I've suffered it now and then: that incredible need to connect. Loneliness.
There are 101 types of work-related loneliness, and we have our fair share here in IP.
Imposter syndrome
The loneliness of the imposter who, surrounded by top-notch professionals, worries they’re not up to the job. Of the fearful, unable to admit their problems and mistakes. Of the outsider, trying to fit in, searching for familiar faces in a room full of strangers—“networking” can be the loneliest task on earth.
There’s the loneliness of the advocate, fighting a client’s case while the opponents—perhaps the tribunal too—scoff. Of the adviser, whose individual words have a terrifying power to shape businesses and livelihoods. And of the sole practitioner, the consultant and the remote worker, who miss out on meetings, gossip, birthday cake and Christmas parties.
I have never felt lonelier than sitting at my work-from-home desk reading social media posts from people enjoying their team outings, office parties and other forms of corporate generosity. It’s not the activities themselves I crave, it’s the sense of involvement, of belonging, that they bring.
A lost jigsaw piece
And let’s not forget the loneliness of the unheard, the unseen and the undervalued. We can all feel that way sometimes, even when surrounded by other people. Conversely, there’s the loneliness of the leader, who walks ahead forging the path, carrying responsibilities that often can’t be shared.
It means different things to different people, but I think at the heart of loneliness is that basic feeling of not having a connection to the world. Loneliness is being unable to contribute. It’s when you’re the lost jigsaw piece, separated from the rest of the puzzle.
No profession is immune but there may be aspects of working in IP that increase our vulnerability. Many of us work alone rather than in teams. We have a lot of sole practitioners and remote workers, and smaller firms with over-stretched leaders. We’re full of high-flyers and perfectionists, and our work can be tough: deadlines, complex issues, high stakes.
A lonely person can go unnoticed for months while their colleagues grapple with their own workload and deadlines.
A niche profession
IP is also a niche profession. That’s good news for the in-crowd, but correspondingly tough for outsiders. And let’s face it we’re not yet very diverse, so people in under-represented groups often struggle to find someone to identify with. It can indeed feel lonely being the only woman, or the only non-white person, around the table.
And yet, the IP professions are also well placed to tackle these issues. Combating loneliness is about putting ourselves in other people's shoes, recognising that they may not feel as confident as we do.
It’s about remembering to include everyone: to invite, to ask, to share. IP professionals, for all their faults, are generally pretty good at lateral thinking—we can, then, try harder to understand others and to actively welcome them in.
My top tip? Ask someone a favour. If I'm feeling undervalued, excluded or unsure of myself, the nicest thing anyone can do is seek my opinion or invite me to help. Connections—meaningful connections—are the best antidote to loneliness.
This Mental Health Awareness Week, please reach out to someone and remind them they have value. And then keep on doing it.
Andrea Brewster is lead executive officer at IP Inclusive and she can be contacted at: abrewsteripinclusive@gmail.com
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